Selfish People – Like You and That’s Okay

Selfish People – Like You and That’s Okay

I know… the title implies a little negativity, but hear me out. There are selfish people out there…and you’re one of em. I am, you are, everyone is. So allow me to explain myself. What do I mean by this? Well it’s quite simple, really. So let’s start off with the definition of being selfish and allow me to elaborate on what I feel my own definition is: Selfish People From the archives of Merriam Webster: “self·ish – adjective \ˈsel-fish\ 1 : concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one’s own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others. 2 : arising from concern with one’s own welfare or advantage in disregard of others <a selfish act>. Now upon reading this definition. One can assume that if people are selfish then they have no regard for the feelings and welfare of others. In some cases, it’s completely true. But I have another outlook on selfishness and I would like to think it’s a little more relevant to the majority of the world’s population. So what do I mean by this? What do I mean when I say that people are selfish? Well, to explain that people are selfish I like to think of the word: “selfish” I relate it to a “What’s in it for me?” attitude. In other words, if I do something for someone else. Or if I strive to achieve something…what’s in for me? What do I get out of it? Still, this does sound rather negative in relation to the definition above; but let me explain my theory with a few examples that I hope makes sense. If you were to help an...

80 20 – The Pareto Principle and Success

The Rule of 80 20 Many of you have probably heard the rule of 80 20. That is 20% of your effort accounts for 80% of your results. The Pareto Principle is based off of Vilfredo Pareto, who observed in 1906 that 80% of the land in Italy was owned by 20% of the population; he developed the principle by observing that 20% of the pea pods in his garden contained 80% of the peas. As simple as this sounds (even silly in some cases), you may be surprised at how fundamentally true this principle really is. Think about it, you can easily place yourself in a plethora of situations where the 80 20 rule applies. I’ve been in sales all my life and I know beyond a shadow of the doubt that 20% of my clients account for 80% of the total revenue made. In other words, for every 100 people…. only 20 of them are producing 80% of the results! Pretty crazy if you ask me! Now let’s look into the 80 20 rule a bit further… Let’s say you have a list 10 friends. Is it safe to say that 2-3 of them are your best and closest friends whereas the other 7-8 are more “buddies”? Interesting, isn’t it? Take a look at your website statistics. 20% of your traffic are going to spend 80% of the time reading your articles. The other 80% are going to spend 20% of their time. Now think about this… 20% of the people in this world are accounting for 80% of the results and effects on this world. Who do...
Popularity is Overrated – Do This Instead

Popularity is Overrated – Do This Instead

Popularity is overrated, people. Seriously, why is it so important to people? Why is it something people strive for and in some cases…would give anything to have it? It’s quite simple, really. It’s widely believed that when you’re popular, you have people’s attention. You have power and influence. Girls like you, guys like you and all in all, life is just perfect… …This couldn’t be further from the truth. You see, it’s not “popularity” or “being popular” that gets you those results. In all actuality, being popular is only a by-product of something else. Something far more important than finding out how to be popular. Something far more valuable than making someone like you or feeling liked. That something is called – Being Consistent and Effective. So what do I mean by this? How does being consistent and effective cause popularity? How does it cause you to have more influence and more control in your own social life? It’s quite simple. When you’re effective as well as consistent; people know what to expect from you. Think about someone you know who is well liked. What are some of their actions that they do on a consistent basis. Do they do certain things consistently? Do they hang out somewhere every Friday or participate in community/friend events on a regular basis? Are they consistent? Chances are they are, but what about how effective they are? When they are doing what they are doing consistently, how effective are they? If they are participating in a regular event, are they meeting and greeting? Talking and listening? Laughing and interacting? Or are they sitting...
What is Self Confidence – How to Get Anyone to Like You

What is Self Confidence – How to Get Anyone to Like You

  What is self confidence really? In this article, I am going to cover a few key points that I have found will help you take the steps needed to be a social success. Getting anyone to like you isn’t as hard as you may think.  All that is needed is a little consistency and attitudinal changes. The greatest thing about it is that you don’t need to change “who” you are. You just need be aware of “how” you are. Please don’t get me wrong, there isn’t a silver bullet to getting anyone to like you. There isn’t a magic phrase or word that will magically make the people you’re meeting instantly think you’re a likeable person. Others may say otherwise, but in actuality, that will never work. The reality is that it takes a little practice, it takes a little sincerity and most importantly…it takes self confidence. So as the title suggests… What is self confidence exactly? For lack of better words, when you have self confidence; everything else follows. I am sure you’ve heard this before…but have you really applied it? Can you think back to a situation you have found yourself in where your confidence made all the difference in the world? Even if you see yourself as someone with no self confidence, chances are there have been countless times  you’ve allowed your confidence to shine through and take control of a situation. If you asked someone, “what is self confidence?” they most likely have a preconceived notion of what it entails. The way you look, the way you speak, the way you move, etc....
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